While it’s unfortunate, theres a definite bias against men in family court situations. It’s a product of years of legal precedent, but in these situations the mother is often awarded full custody, even in some situations where the father is technically more able to care for the children. When facing your own legal battle, try to avoid these common mistakes.
The first, and probably most important mistake a man can make is not taking their spouse seriously when divorce is mentioned. When a partner brings up divorce, chances are good that she’s already contacted a divorce lawyer and knows what steps to take to make sure she is protected. When the subject is broached, make sure to start doing research of your own, and consider contacting your own lawyer. Showing that you’re serious can go a long way.
While your first instinct might be to remove yourself from your home and the spouse you’re now at odds with before the situation becomes too dire, this could be the biggest mistake you could make. Staying in your home ensures that you have constant contact and involvement with your children, which works to your advantage. Conversely, removing yourself from your children’s lives is something that your spouse’s attorney will use to their advantage.
Information is going to be key in any divorce proceedings, so make sure that your attorney has every piece of information available to them. Holding anything back can be extremely detrimental in your case, as the information is likely something your spouse has ready access to, and will probably share with their attorney. Make sure that your attorney is fully prepared, so there are no surprises in the courtroom.
Conversely, when it comes to anyone other than your attorney, especially your spouse, sharing any information can be extremely detrimental to your case. Try to avoid heated confrontations with your spouse as you’re more likely to reveal critical information in the heat of the moment. You both have a stake in this disagreement, and any information can be used against you in the proceedings.
These are just a few examples of things that could go wrong during divorce proceedings. You’ll want to be sure that you keep things close to the vest in situations like this if you want them to go in your favor.